Rape is any form of sexual assault that usually involves sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without their consent. It may occur through physical force, threats, abuse of power, or when a person is incapable of giving proper consent, such as when they are vulnerable, unconscious, drunk, mentally disabled, or underage. Sometimes, the term “rape” is used interchangeably with “sexual assault.”
In recent times, there has been a disturbing increase in the number of rape cases in Africa, particularly in South Africa. Nigeria is also experiencing a surge in rape, especially in the northeastern part of the country.
My Stand: Personally, I strongly oppose rape and any form of sexual immorality. Sexual acts should only occur when both individuals give their full and unequivocal consent. Rape is a violation where one person decides for another, denying them the right to choose.
WHY DOES RAPE HAPPEN?
Lack of Self-Control: Many individuals struggle with controlling their emotions. They let their impulses take over, driven by what they see and feel, leading to harmful actions.
Lack of Proper Awareness: Some people are not properly educated about rape. They may not understand the signs or dangers, or they may have incorrect information.
Partial Consent: Some rape victims give partial consent by engaging in activities of a sexual nature, but then withdraw their consent. In these situations, the offender, losing control, may proceed with rape.
Revenge: Some men view rape as a way to get back at women who have wronged them. This is both heartbreaking and wrong.
Seduction: In some cases, women dress provocatively and act in ways that may encourage men, yet expect respect and courtesy in return. It’s said that men are often moved by what they see. While this does not excuse rape, it’s important for everyone to be mindful of how they present themselves and maintain dignity.
WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR RAPE?
Some rapists claim their actions are due to psychological issues, just as some people wrongly attribute homosexuality to hormonal imbalances. This reasoning is false.
The Government: Rape prevention should be part of school’s curriculum, and students need to be educated on how to avoid it. Nationwide awareness campaigns and education on the dangers of rape should be prioritized.
The Family: Parents should be careful about the clothing they allow their children to wear. Some dress their kids in very revealing clothes, claiming it’s fashionable, but this can lead to dangerous situations. From an early age, children should be taught about respect, dignity, and how to avoid becoming victims.
Religious Institutions: Our churches and mosques need to do more to address this issue in society. Faith-based organizations should play an active role in educating their members about the dangers of rape.
Rape Victims: While some victims are truly innocent, others may unintentionally put themselves in risky situations. Late-night outings, meeting strangers at odd hours, and wearing clothes that may be seen as “inviting” can unfortunately contribute to a rape incident. However, this does not justify the crime in any way.
THE TRUTH ABOUT RAPE
Rape destroys the dignity and respect of both the victim and the perpetrator. We need rehabilitation centers for rape victims to help them heal. Offenders should face proper legal consequences, no matter who they are.
CAUTION: Not every claimed rape case is true. Some people may lie about being raped to get revenge on those who rejected them. We must be cautious and avoid passing judgement without a fair hearing.
Ubong Usoro writes for the Nigeria Magazine
